I enjoy my friends more when they're not drunk, but I'm still not judging them when they are. Same thing goes if they're in a bad mood, or if they, I don't know, just had a root canal and talk really weird. Dislike doesn't imply judgment. Seriously. I'll say it again: "When I tell you that two drinks per event is fine and moderate and normal and healthy and doesn't bother me (and if it does bother me then it's my problem and not yours), I actually mean it." And so on.
I have no standing to tell anyone not to drink (unless they're endangering their well being, which is something I rarely encounter). I know this. And in fact, I wouldn't want to, because I know that they're likely drinking because they enjoy it, and what they do should depend more on what they like than what I like.
I see why this looks like a contradiction, but please see that it's not.
And if someone's drinking more than I want them to, I either remove myself from the situation or I don't, depending on how I'm feeling. But unless they're endangering their health or otherwise doing something stupid, I won't say anything, because again, this is about me, not them.
Though " As for disliking drunk people and not enjoying drinking, do you really think you've had enough experience to know that?" Yes. I've been around enough drunk people to feel comfortable making the generalizations about them that I've made so far (subject to the usual caveats about generalizations, such as applying them to individual situations at your own risk). And I don't need to try getting drunk to know that I don't want to get drunk, for all the reasons outlined in my original post.
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I have no standing to tell anyone not to drink (unless they're endangering their well being, which is something I rarely encounter). I know this. And in fact, I wouldn't want to, because I know that they're likely drinking because they enjoy it, and what they do should depend more on what they like than what I like.
I see why this looks like a contradiction, but please see that it's not.
And if someone's drinking more than I want them to, I either remove myself from the situation or I don't, depending on how I'm feeling. But unless they're endangering their health or otherwise doing something stupid, I won't say anything, because again, this is about me, not them.
Though " As for disliking drunk people and not enjoying drinking, do you really think you've had enough experience to know that?" Yes. I've been around enough drunk people to feel comfortable making the generalizations about them that I've made so far (subject to the usual caveats about generalizations, such as applying them to individual situations at your own risk). And I don't need to try getting drunk to know that I don't want to get drunk, for all the reasons outlined in my original post.