Yes, I have regrets, by some definitions. But when I think about regrets, I think of two categories: (1) Things I "should" have done differently, given not only my knowledge at the time, but also my mental state, my personality, and so on; all the circumstances. (If I would've been happier if I'd asked the girl out, but if I genuinely didn't like her at the time and it was too late by the time I did, then it's no regret.) (2) Things I did that I really wish I could go back and change, even considering all the consequences and results of the way I did act. (If I did something I "shouldn't" have, but there were positive results or growth experiences from it, then how can I regret it?) And I guess for me to call something a regret, it has to fit both of those, and I just can't think of anything non-trivial for me right now that does.
I guess it's not easy to fault someone for changing and feeling they've done so for the better, since it's not like people were perfect beforehand. But, I guess, the more my friends change, the less likely that I'd agree it was all for the better, since I thought things were pretty good to start out. Though maybe this is just a definition of growing apart?
Re: I am No.#1 (in replying to your journal!)
Yes, I have regrets, by some definitions. But when I think about regrets, I think of two categories: (1) Things I "should" have done differently, given not only my knowledge at the time, but also my mental state, my personality, and so on; all the circumstances. (If I would've been happier if I'd asked the girl out, but if I genuinely didn't like her at the time and it was too late by the time I did, then it's no regret.) (2) Things I did that I really wish I could go back and change, even considering all the consequences and results of the way I did act. (If I did something I "shouldn't" have, but there were positive results or growth experiences from it, then how can I regret it?) And I guess for me to call something a regret, it has to fit both of those, and I just can't think of anything non-trivial for me right now that does.
I guess it's not easy to fault someone for changing and feeling they've done so for the better, since it's not like people were perfect beforehand. But, I guess, the more my friends change, the less likely that I'd agree it was all for the better, since I thought things were pretty good to start out. Though maybe this is just a definition of growing apart?