Two Three of the longest relationships I know of among my peers ended recently. One couple has been married for a year and a half, but together for over 9. Another has been married over 4 years. Yay, relationships!
I'm torn between trying to think of something obvious they did wrong and should've seen coming (y'know, so things will work out better for everyone else if they just don't make that mistake!), and saying "fuck it" to long-term relationships in general. But mostly I'm just sadder about them than I expected to be. Today kind of sucked in that regard.
ha, love the prompt. I encourage a very Haxian view--most relationships don't work and that is ok and to be expected and people should be much, much more accepting of this and not look to lay blame or watch out, but just acknowledge that most often people don't fit well together. I guess that's also part of what makes it so special when they do fit well?
I wish she would have answered my question about our biological or otherwise not totally conscious urge to make things work. Part of that attempt can actually be things like cheating, which I think we usually use as evidence that long term pair bonds are unnatural and forced societal constructs, but I think in most cases the cheating is more accurately a (very bad) attempt at making things work.
Man. This is a sad topic. Hope the Phillies cheered you up.
All is well in Penny and Jasper land, too! (Extra well lately, actually.) That's like...*does math* 11.5 years total. Wait, no... 12.5. It's been 4 years since 2006, right?
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my no longer cherished;
need we say it was not love,
just because it perished?
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I'm torn between trying to think of something obvious they did wrong and should've seen coming (y'know, so things will work out better for everyone else if they just don't make that mistake!), and saying "fuck it" to long-term relationships in general. But mostly I'm just sadder about them than I expected to be. Today kind of sucked in that regard.
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I wish she would have answered my question about our biological or otherwise not totally conscious urge to make things work. Part of that attempt can actually be things like cheating, which I think we usually use as evidence that long term pair bonds are unnatural and forced societal constructs, but I think in most cases the cheating is more accurately a (very bad) attempt at making things work.
Man. This is a sad topic. Hope the Phillies cheered you up.
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