desh ([personal profile] desh) wrote2008-09-19 03:26 pm

This just in!

A heterosexual couple has been harmed by same-sex marriage.

See? The gays really are destroying the world!

Yeah.

Or something.

[identity profile] erin.livejournal.com 2008-09-20 03:46 am (UTC)(link)
I work at my state's capitol complex, actually. :) One of the issues I deal with a few times a week are employees entered into one of our databases more than once under two different socials (due to a miskey during one of those entries). And! My last name is a common last name in my area with a weird spelling due to a typo a few generations back. My name is misspelled everywhere, including my tax receipts, and just yesterday, I had to use those receipts at the DMV to renew my car registration. I am perfectly aware of the confusion and aggravation associated with these things.

I did not suggest that cramming useless information into a form field can't have a negative impact. I said in this specific case that it would be really unlikely, because I believe what they put in to be benign as their intent was clear.

Further, with regard to government workers, I said: "...would be able to handle a little bit of leeway..."

I'm not sure if I was unclear there, but I used "would be" intending to imply that if they had been given that authority, they have the judgment skills to make good decisions. I know the lower level peons don't have the authority to make such judgment calls, even without you enlightening me.

I am done with this conversation. I accepted your condescension at first as just a knee-jerk reaction, but it's sort of grown to the point where you're talking to me as if I've lived in a box and had no experience with How the World Really Works. You are just going to have to accept that someone way out there in the internet understands why they had to reject the form but still thinks it was silly and needless when the intent was perfectly clear.

[identity profile] smarriveurr.livejournal.com 2008-09-20 03:55 pm (UTC)(link)
Well, I'm sorry for the condescension. My online tone needs a lot of work, but somehow, over the years, I haven't learned to be explicit without sounding like an ass.

The reply you gave gave me the impression that you thought I was saying "lower level peons" weren't smart enough to make these decisions, which would be rude as hell, and I thought that was a source of anger, so I was trying to be really explicit about what I was trying to say. It wasn't a matter of "enlightening" you, it was a matter of "no, really, I'm not attacking government workers, here, I know these people." People who respond to what they think I'm saying instead of what I'm saying is one of my kneejerks. Bad execution on my part, I guess. Anyway, topic dropped, apologies.

[identity profile] smarriveurr.livejournal.com 2008-09-21 05:23 am (UTC)(link)
Honestly, I can admit it was a bit git-ish of me right from the start, jumping in in the first place. I can see the condescension, to a degree, in severe retrospect. Hindsight, etc. Sorry I started trouble on your journal, bud.